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Shameless

27 Feb

Somewhere down the line I developed a reputation as being someone who will say and do nearly anything.  While this is true, there is one thing that I wont do.I dont kiss and tell.No, I dont mean when you immediately run to your girlfriends and dish about that fantastic date that you just came back from, or when you write on your Facebook wall about just how much fun the conception of your first child was.  I mean the practice of bragging about or being fairly candid about the number of page views that your blog attracts or the number of Followers that you have acquired on Twitter.Recently, a couple of posts sprang up in the blogosphere, which admittedly were very gracious and not immediately harmless.  I just want to stress that I have no personal issue with the people who decided to write these posts and so Im not going to name names or anything.  What I do take issue with is the principle behind it, which whether they meant it or not, does reinforce the idea that on some level your page views matter.I have met a number of people who have a very strong interest in starting a blog, but wont, because they are afraid that nobody will be interested in what they have to say, or that nobody will read what they write.  I have also seen a number of bloggers who made a solid attempt at blogging, but gave up when they didnt get the traffic that they were hoping for, or when they felt like nobody was listening.Now you could argue that these people were blogging for all of the wrong reasons and so they were doomed to fail anyway.  I have gone on record a number of times to say that if you are looking for a reason to blog and you are doing it for the page views that you are doing it wrong.  That is not the reason to start a blog.  It is not worth getting wrapped up over and it really can turn into an endless spiral of shame and self-loathing if you let it.  But one could also say that you cant blame people for being concerned about their numbers when they see posts celebrating these near impossible landmarks and the amount of admiration and praise that is showered upon people who do reach these heights.  You cant blame someone for wanting to be a part of that and for wanting to feel that way, too.I compare advertising your page views or how many Followers you have to boasting about the number of people that you slept with.  You may have slept with 25 people, but that doesnt make you better in bed than the person who only slept with 2 people.  We should be judging ourselves and each other on the quality of our work rather than the number of people that it attracts.  I know quite a few up and coming bloggers that I have seen mentioned on Blog Azeroth that have written some truly riveting posts within weeks of starting their blog, which I cant always say for people who may be more well established and who have been going at this for a while.  That blogger may have only gotten 100 page views or so, but I would much rather read what they have to say than that powerhouse blogger who gets thousands of views a day.It really is not about that.  I have been blogging for a long time and I can honestly say that I was never happier than when I was blogging away on Livejournal, when nobody knew who I was, and when I was talking about how excited I was that the first season of The Golden Girls was coming out on DVD.  I wasnt writing for anyone but me and it showed.  I didnt obsess over who was going to take something the wrong way, or whether or not my facts were straight.  I wrote because I loved to do it and because it helped me clear my head and get a lot of things out of in the open that I didnt think I could say to anyone else directly.Somewhere down the line it gets muddled and you do feel obligated to keep going.  Its hard not to feel that way when you realize that people are looking forward to your next post or when they do get emotionally invested in the things that you write about.  Blogging starts to feel less carefree, less effortless once you develop some semblance of a following.  I can take a look at the posts that I wrote when I had no Followers and nobody subscribed to my blog and see a huge difference in the tone or the quality of the posts from where I am now.  It really does change everything.On a similar note, we say that we like Looking For Raid because it gets people interested in raiding, but then we criticize other players when they dont perform to the standards that we are used to in our everyday raiding guilds.  We wonder how people could be so incompetent or how they could have gotten this far without asking for help.  I see elements of this in the blogosphere, too.  We make comments on Twitter that we have nothing new to read and that there are no blogs out there that pertain to a certain topic, but then we hesitate to click on a Retweet from a friend that just may have an article from a new and interesting voice that has yet to be heard.  Or we dont think to write back to someone who sends us a Tweet or leaves us a comment to tell us that we did a good job on our most recent post, simply because we have never heard of them, or because they may have less of a following than we do.Whether you mean it or not, that new blogger is going to read a post like the one mentioned above and it may deter from them even getting started, or it may convince them that they arent cut out to maintain a blog because they can never pull in numbers like that.  I think we should be doing everything we can to remove any sort of Why bother? element from people interested in getting involved in the community and be more inclusive, overall.  We all remember what it was like when we were first starting out and I think its important that we never forget that, no matter how successful we might become.  There really is enough room for everyone at the table, regardless of the amount of page views that you generate.  Lets do a better job of communicating that, shall we?

Infamous

4 Jan

What world are you living in?  I dont need friends.  I need fans.- Jill Roberts – Scream 4. Its been a while since I have written a rant type post and this has been something thats been grating on my nerves for a while, so I figured I would start the new year off right and get some of this off of my chest.Last night, there was a kerfuffle on Twitter over some comments that a famous World of Warcraft personality, known for his YouTube videos had made about how women should be treated when they dress a certain way.  While his comments did ruffle my feathers a bit, I was more concerned about something else.  This is someone who has built an audience creating humorous machinima type parodies about things pertaining to World of Warcraft, but I wasnt seeing any indication that this person actually plays World of WarcraftNow most people who blog or host a podcast relating to a game that they enjoy will usually do something to indicate that they actually play said game.  You may find an Armory link on their blog or they may give their guild a shoutout on their show.  But this gentleman had nothing of the sort on any of his various pages.  I looked at his YouTube page and didnt find anything.  His Facebook page and Twitter bio came up empty, as well.  Apparently, he likes World of Warcraft enough to use it as a means to build his following, but not enough to actually, you know, play it. Something about that seems kind of wrong to me and maybe even a little malicious.  The sad reality of it is that he is hardly the first person to potentially be guilty of such a thing.  Take another YouTube personality, for example.  This person has built a following on looking attractive while they read various patch notes and giving out very simple tidbits of advice pertaining to World of Warcraft, but there is no mention of this person having a character or actively playing the game.  Sure, when they first started they would sign off by saying their name and their realm.  But, if you go looking for that exact name on the Armory now, odds are you wont find that character anywhere.  You will, however, find a slew of characters with a similar name, but those were probably created in honor of said person and are most likely not that persons actual toon. Am I the only one that sees a problem with this?  In my opinion, this is no different than the current state of celebrity outside of the gaming world.  People have become famous for doing nothing at all.  They havent done anything to show that they have any reason to be talking about the things theyre attempting to talk about.  It would be like me going to work for ESPN.  I know nothing about sports.  I go to baseball games for the snacks, for God sakes!  I have no business being in front of a camera or behind a microphone talking about the players stats and which team I think should win.  It wouldnt be hard for someone to notice this and to call me out on it and they would be well within their rights to do so.Yet nobody seems to mind that the podcast youre listening to, where one of the hosts is telling you how to raid has never done a raid before.  Nobody minds that the person ranting about Mists of Pandaria changes on their YouTube channel probably wont even have a character at the level to explore Pandaria when it comes out.  People like them because theyre witty, or because theyre cute, but not necessarily because they have actually done something to warrant being listened to.  They just happened to be there at the right time and said or did the right things. I wish there was a way to check peoples credentials before they decided to start some kind of endeavor like this.  You want to write a blog about PVP?  Show me that you PVP.  You want to critique the leveling experience of a new game you just purchased?  Wonderful.  Show me that you actually have this toon.  When I stopped playing a resto druid, I stopped talking about them, because I knew that I no longer had any business doing so.  Sure, I may dole out small (OK, maybe bigger than that) doses of snark about resto druids and my love/hate relationship with them, but any chance I had of discussing theorycrafting or more advanced topics pertaining to them went right out the window when I decided to become a priest.And even now, you can see that I have a priest.  You can see what my character looks like.  You can see where I chose to place my talent points.  You can see that Im practicing what I preach.  I am a priest who is raiding and seeing current content.  I have absolutely nothing to hide.  I have shown that I have a reason to talk about the things that I talk about and that what I talk about comes from experience.  Im not telling you how to spec and then doing the exact opposite.  Im not telling you how to heal a boss fight that I myself have yet to experience.  I talk about what is happening to me and to other people, as I understand it and as I have seen it.     In closing, I would like to see more focus placed on the people who are genuinely doing things to better the community and have shown that they are actually doing such things.  There are people hosting podcasts who are excellent at PVP or who are playing the game that you happen to play.  They really are guild masters and mothers, raid leaders and husbands.  There are people who record instructional videos that have actually seen the fights.  They have been there and they will go beyond that.  You shouldnt have to settle for someone who is just telling you what you want to hear or giving you what you want to see, simply so they can have more subscribers or use their endeavors as a platform to something else, which has nothing to do with the very games that they used to become successful, in the first place.  I wont settle for it and you shouldnt, either.

Guest Post: Warcraft And International Relations

3 Jan

Happy New Year, everyone!As part of Blog Azeroths Furtive Father Winter event, I recently received a guest post from Katarnas, over at Resto Is Epic.  Unfortunately, I didnt receive it until I was well on my way out of town for the holiday weekend, but I promised that I would post it as soon as I got back and settled in.  If youre interested in the post that I submitted, which was a gift for my friend Rilandune, you can check that out here.And now, on to the lovely guest post! So this year I decided to take part in the FFW event on Blog Azeroth.

My Top 10 Posts of 2011

27 Dec

It has been one hell of a year here at The Stories Of O, and I figured now would be the perfect time to take a look back at the previous years worth of entries and single out the 10 which I am the most proud of.  Some of these posts were funny and perhaps even heartwarming.

Baggage

6 Nov

Since Ive started playing World of Warcraft again, I have been spending quite a bit of time in Randoms.  I did them the first two weeks that I came back, so I could make sure that I was Valor Point capped, because I wasnt raiding and had no other way to earn those points, otherwise.  I am doing them now that my priest is raiding, because I have recently dusted off my level 82 shaman and have been having an absolute blast healing with her in Randoms and leveling that way.You start to pick up on trends or interesting personality types when you do a lot of Randoms.

Queen

1 Nov

I stayed up way later than I should have, the night that the nominations for the Stopies awards were announced.  Secretly, I was hoping that my podcast, the one that I co-host and that I enjoy making with Ophelie would somehow have attracted enough attention to warrant being nominated for one of the many awards being given away by the crew of the Stopcast.  I got there just in time to hear who was all nominated and to hear which award I, personally, was being nominated for:  Biggest Drama Queen.At first, it started out being something that I was proud of.

Groupie

12 Oct

Im your biggest fan. Ill follow you until you love me.- Lady Gaga, Paparazzi.Because I am such a flirtatious personality, I do tend to attract people who like to banter with me by using innuendos and other forms of potentially sexual dialogue.  Once in a while, I will attract the attention of someone who seems to think Im interesting and would like to do something about it.

New Double O Podcast – Episode Eight!

8 Sep

All that and a bag of Baked Lays, its Episode Eight of the Double O Podcast!http://thedoubleopodcast.wordpress.com/2011/09/02/episode-8-parental-guidance-strongly-suggested/We packed this unbelievable episode with four, count them FOUR guests, Ceraphus, Christine, Fannon, & Hydra, all of whom are parents that you may or may not know from the blogosphere or the community at large.  They took time out of their day to join us on the show and discuss what its really like to be a parent who raids and juggles other responsibilities at the same time.Nothing was off limits here.  We talk about how to negotiate playing time with your significant other, dealing with your identity as a parent in the game, the perks of being in a family friendly guild, and whether or not they would want their children picking up a game like World of Warcraft in the not so distant future.Ophelie and I also include a big announcement about some future shows that we have coming up very soon.In other news, Ophelie and I were asked to make a guest appearance on a recent episode of the Stopcast this week.  The episode, called Double Ohhhh can be found here:http://www.stopcast.net/?p=episode&name=2011-09-06_episode58.mp3We got pretty rowdy with these guys and had a great time talking about ourselves, our friendship, what were both up to in our respective games, how the Double O Podcast got started, and a number of other salacious things that cant really be explained here.If youre in the mood for a few laughs and a slew of dirty talk, then check out that episode and have some laughs along with us.Thanks for stopping by!

Choice

5 Sep

Whenever I read something, I try to imagine the authors voice in my head and what it would sound like if they were reading the story directly to me.  If theyre angry, I imagine their voice rising and falling and maybe even that theyre pacing back and forth.  If theyre happy, I imagine them smiling broadly and expressively talking to me with their hands as theyre sharing their good fortune with me.For anyone reading this post, I would like you to imagine that Im speaking to you in a very level headed, professional tone.  Im not angry.  Im not upset.  Imagine that Im speaking to you in the same tone of voice that I would if you were listening to my podcast or if you were listening to me discuss strategies with you during a raid on Vent.  What Im about to write has nothing to do with being spiteful or malicious, but with the feeling of maybe being a bit misunderstood.Its recently been brought to my attention that certain bloggers or personalities have expressed concern or frustration with the fact that many of us in the blogosphere have been highly critical of World of Warcraft and Blizzard for certain decisions that they have made and continue to make towards the game.  Certain people feel that we have become overly negative and that we are fostering a sort of bitter rivalry between those of us who still enjoy World of Warcraft and those of us who may have moved on to greener pastures (i.e.

Putting A Face On Goodbye

30 Aug

One of the main reasons that the gay marriage movement has gained so much ground in recent years has been attributed to people being able to put a face on gay marriage, which makes it much more difficult for people to deny others that right when they know someone who is in a similar situation.  When its your uncle, your neighbor, your boss, something like that really hits home for you and it affects you in ways that it otherwise wouldnt. The same goes for a charity that youre trying to raise money for.  If you have lost someone to HIV or breast cancer, chances are that you will be even more passionate about fund raising for that particular cause and you may possibly even participate in events to do your part so that the very same thing doesnt happen to someone else.I remember when the news that Blizzard had lost 600,000 subscribers had been released and people began absorbing and discussing it.  It didnt really hit me.  I was firmly in the Oh, its just 600,000 people.  Were going to be fine camp.  I didnt have a personal stake in it, really.  Those were just numbers to me. Shortly after, we learned that the cross realm Dungeon Finder was going to be implemented.  I remember posting something on my Facebook about this, hoping that the one third of my friends list who I met through WoW or who I know play WoW might be interested in queueing up with me sometime.  Instead of seeing the expected responses of Sure, hit me up! I was sad to see a string of Gosh, I would if I still played the game, type responses.Suddenly, those 600,000 people had names.  They had faces.  I knew them.  I couldnt believe what I was seeing.  They couldnt all have quit the game.  Could they?  The most surprising response came from one of my ex-boyfriends, whom I had actually met through the game and had even moved out of state to be with.  He was as firmly engrossed in World of Warcraft as anybody else.  He was one of the first PVP Gladiators, had the Insane title, and had repeatedly been asked to participate in Beta testing.  In fact, one of the many reasons that we broke up was because of the game.I remember the night that we broke up, when I told him that I needed a life outside of the game and when he replied that he couldnt give me one.  That guy was now in nursing school and had been so busy discovering life that his 10 man team (the members of which he handpicked himself) didnt even manage to finish clearing any of the T11 content on normal mode.  Of course, I was happy for him.  But it still blew my mind.  He was the last person I would have expected to join the ranks of the 600,000 who quit World of Warcraft for whatever reason.  And here I was, still playing. Then word came that another 300,000 had quit.  It affected me a bit more because I was one of them now.  I knew why people were leaving the game.  Because I was doing it, too.  Even then, people were still brushing it off as a modest loss and it was no big deal. Today, I read a blog post from Borsk that literally took my breath away.  In it, he mentions that his guild, which had weathered many storms and overcame many challenges along the way had finally decided that their last raid together would in fact be their last.  I couldnt believe what I was reading.  Here was someone else, who I thought would be one of the last to stick it out and show us all that World of Warcraft was worth staying around for, who might even be enough to lure some of us back into things and he was saying goodbye, too. I guess what Im trying to say is that were losing people.  Let me stress that.  We are losing people.  Were losing loved ones.  Were saying goodbye to friendships and memories and ties that we have formed with one another.  Its more than just lost revenue and subscription numbers.  Its not just a lump sum that we can shave off the top of a quarterly report and write off so easily.  These people have names and they have made contributions to the game and to the community.  I think thats something that we tend to forget about when were thinking about things like this.  It doesnt seem real, otherwise.  When you can rationalize it away, when you can convince yourself that it doesnt affect you and it would never happen to you, it becomes easier to deal with it and to dismiss.What people dont understand is how difficult it is to get to that point, to know that its over, and to know that you have to finally do something about it.  Its a very hard thing to have to go through.  You might make an attempt to stay in touch and to try and keep things as close to the way they were as possible, but not everybody succeeds.  Think about how many people you have seen leave the game through the years and that you still remain in touch with.  If youre anything like me, you can probably count the number of people on one hand and still have fingers left over. I just want people to remember that, the next time the topic of people leaving the game comes up again.  There is real loss happening here, that goes beyond income and bragging rights.  Its hard to say goodbye, but its harder to admit that its really over.